02 June 2009

Catwoman meets The Incredibles!


Got measured for and ordered my rental wetsuit for the open water swim part of the triathlon. This was something I was dredding but needed to just get done. I was ready to feel sort of humiliated (envisioning them not having one in my size or something I guess), but it turned out to be no big deal.
Wow...getting it on and off (& on and off, because I tried on two) was quite a workout in and of itself. It was sort of hot and stuffy where I was dressing and so I started to feel the tiniest bit panicky for a spit second. I have worn wetsuits a lot in the past for scuba diving but these are really different - more like surfers wear, I would guess...the zipper is in the back & they are very rubbery looking & stiffer...I felt a little superhero-like...the guy helping me said they are called "Catwoman" style. Meow!

01 June 2009

classic

Tonight after hearing it on a TV commercial, my eight year old said, "Eye Of The Tiger is such a classic song".

murder for a cause?

Regardless of one's views of abortion,the murder of Dr. Tiller, in church no less, is so so sad. A controversial figure for being one of perhaps three physicians in the US willing to provide very late term abortions, he was also a human being.
Family members, including 4 children and 10 grandchildren, issued a statement through Dr. Tiller’s lawyer, which read in part: “George dedicated his life to providing women with high-quality health care despite frequent threats and violence. We ask that he be remembered as a good husband, father and grandfather and a dedicated servant on behalf of the rights of women everywhere.”
This is not the way...people who are pro-choice are NOT pro-abortion. I'm sure this doctor did his job with a heavy heart and now his heart no longer beats because he offered what the law allows in thankfully very rare occasions.

30 May 2009

another dragon slayed

After spin class this morning I still felt like riding and yet needed to go to a kid baseball game in the neighboring town. I have thus far avoided riding my bike on regular streets (I encounter the occasional car in the park where I ride, but it's not a proper street) because the thought sort of panicked me, quite frankly! But I want to get comfortable rode biking...so today I gathered my courage & rode the few miles to the game. I realized half way there that I did not know the traffic hand signals (I do now!) and was not carrying any ID (just my cell phone)...dumb move, just in case, so lesson learned. Anyway, I'm feeling a bit proud to have mostly overcome my fear and figured out a route that's not too downhill or uphill, is pretty and is fairly safe...and so fast (& green!)! I also realized how much cars are not really thinking about people on bikes...I always try to give space/deference to riders and pedestrians, but will even more so now. I also made sure to give the "thanks" wave for positive reinforcement to cars who were nice & let me go/gave me space...

29 May 2009

Laboring under an Illusion


The film by this name, subtitled "Mass Media Childbirth vs. The Real Thing" looks amazing - check out the film trailer. I'm always telling people that contrary to birth they have seen on TV, most likely their labor will not start with their water breaking & their kid born within 23 minutes, minus commercial breaks. And they will probably not curse like a sailor if they don't usually.

Anyway - it looks fantastic!

Here's the blurb:

Anthropologist Vicki Elson explores media-generated myths about childbirth. As a childbirth educator for 25 years, she observes daily how our culture affects our birth experiences. In this film, she contrasts fiction with reality. The result is hilarious, engaging, and enlightening.

"To understand what it's really like to have a baby, we have to debunk the silly and scary images served up by the profit-driven media. In reality, birth is hard work, sometimes simple, sometimes complicated, but always miraculous and unforgettable."

28 May 2009

interesting dream

I had a dream this morning that I gave birth, quite effortlessly. The contractions were not really painful and didn't last long. I was at home and a midwife was there, but I caught my own baby, a girl I think. In fact, things went so easily that the midwife left almost immediately. The birth had not hurt, so I don't think I tore, but in my dream I went to my friend's (she used to be a midwife in non-dream life) and asked if she would come check me out...I had gloves for her.
I'm sure there are all sorts of abandonment implications, certainly not stemming from my real-life birth experiences. But also a real DIY, I-can-do-anything kind of feeling. Maybe it was all the tremendous gardening and yard work I did on my own this past weekend since the guy I hired to do it never showed? It's certainly not because I'm wanting or having more babies...my three are quite enough for me!

premature cord clamping

It seems to me that we (well, not me & maybe not you, but the big "we") are so focused on making sure our children are independent right from the start that "we" are encouraged not to hold them too much, not to sleep with them, to get them off to school as soon as we can and so forth. Perhaps this is related to why typical hospital birth involves the almost immediate clamping and cutting of the cord, even when no emergent medical care is needed for the newborn. When hospitals agree to "delayed" clamping and cutting, this often means about two to three minutes. Playing into this, perhaps, is the marketing pressure to bank cord blood, which necessitates the almost immediate clamping in order to make sure that there is enough cord blood (which represents a portion of the baby's total blood volume now being taken) to bank. Contrast that with the average home birth or less-interventive birth atmosphere, where the cord may not be cut for quite a long time.
Though perhaps a little strongly stated, here is an article from Mercola.com about the dangers of common cord practice in hospital birth, asking whether this practice is causing potential brain dammage in babies. Interesting to think about the mechanics as nature intended:
Newborn lungs exist in a "compacted state" suitable for the womb. When the infant is born, the placenta and cord pulse for up to 20 minutes, delivering a burst of blood volume to the infant's system. This blood burst is just what is needed for the lungs of the newborn to expand.

27 May 2009

fair is fair


Equal protection under the law...I got to marry who I wanted - why shouldn't everyone?

If you like the sticker, you can get one here

22 May 2009

Midwifery Modernization Act

This was passed on to me by the midwife who attended my home birth:

Here a link to a petition to remove the requirement for a written practice agreement between a licensed midwife and a physician in New York State.

As many of you know this has been a requirement that is extremely restrictive for both midwives and women who want access to their care.

Urge the NY State Legislature to Support the Midwifery Modernization Act Petition : [ powered by iPe
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Petition Urge the NY State Legislature to Support the Midwifery Modernization Act As midwifery consumers and supporters, we urge the NY State Legislature to support the Midwifery Modernization Act.

21 May 2009

simple pleasures

Tonight I saw the first firefly of the season...they make me happy

Mothers Act

Let your Congress people know (next vote is in the Senate, I believe) if you think access to mental health support is important for women experiencing depression (or psychosis) during pregnancy or after birth...it EASY - just click on the link below

Sign the petition in support of The Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act!

written by Susan Dowd-Stone

Last year the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance based in Chicago IL, created a fantastic online petition in support of the Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act. The online petition generated over 24,000 signatures – in record time – to send an urgent message to Congress in support of the legislation. Thanks to the consistent efforts of Gloria Pope, Advocacy, Public Policy and Training Director for DBSA, the online petition has been reintroduced as of March 9, 2009 again in partnership with Postpartum Support International.

By clicking on this link (or copying and pasting it in to your browser) http://capwiz.com/ndmda/issues/alert/?alertid=12832296 , you will be taken to an advocacy alert page on the DBSA website where you can scroll down, enter your zip code and generate letters of support for The Melanie Blocker Stokes MOTHERS Act to your Congressman, Senators and committee chairs. It could not be any easier!

While U.S. Senator Robert Menendez and Congressman Bobby L. Rush have lent their power and tireless advocacy to the creation of protective postpartum depression legislation for years, our support and constituent advocacy will add the force of the people’s will to their upcoming efforts. When well coordinated, the internet offers a constituent megaphone not previously available. Fifteen seconds of your time could forever change a nation’s view of these disorders!

The petition can track results from states and even constituencies within the state based on zip code, so will give us great information on where we need to target continuing advocacy efforts. By consolidating the petition on one website, our results are more reliable as truly representative of individual supporters.

With the legislation expected to go for a full house vote within the month before proceeding to the senate, this is a great time to go on the record in support of this critical legislation. Please visit the website and add your signature or individualize your letter today!! Then forward this link to everyone you know – colleagues, friends, family members and community organizations, so our legislators continue to understand the enormous bipartisan support that exists for this bill! We cannot wait any longer for this life-saving legislation to pass! Help make it happen THIS YEAR!!

I heart our President

President Barack Obama bends over so the son of a White House staff member can pat his head during a family visit to the Oval Office May 8, 2009. The youngster wanted to see if the President's haircut felt like his own. (Official White House Photo by Pete Souza)

19 May 2009

local hero

so today was the Oprah show & it was pretty heartwarming...lots of ideas for anyone to do something nice for the neighbors in need

song for the day



just because it feels so happy & it's finally sunny today!

18 May 2009

watch Oprah Tu 5/19!


A while back I mentioned that a local neighbor of mine was collecting needed items for her sister to share with fellow Galveston hurricane survivors...well, that experience made this neighbor, Mary Marzano, think about collecting & recycling linens from hotel chains (apparently they "retire" stuff after a short time) for those in need. The project has become hugely successful, recently landing her in People Magazine's "Heroes" feature and now the Oprah appearance tomorrow!
Way to go Mary - recycling & helping make the world better!

birth in the news


In yesterday's LA Times:

HEALTHCARE: ROADS TO REFORM

Childbirth: Can the U.S. improve?

snippet:

It is a big reason childbirth often is held up in healthcare reform debates as an example of how the intensive and expensive U.S. brand of medicine has failed to deliver better results and may, in fact, be doing more harm than good.

"We're going in the wrong direction," said Dr. Roger A. Rosenblatt, a University of Washington professor of family medicine who has written about what he calls the "perinatal paradox," in which more intervention, such as cesareans, is linked with declining outcomes, such as neonatal intensive care admissions. Maternity care, he said, "is a microcosm of the entire medical enterprise."


and in this week's Time Magazine:

Doctors Versus Midwives: The Birth Wars Rage On

snippet:

It's this fact that has always been responsible for the fault line between obstetricians — who are trained to view birth as a medical procedure — and midwives, who see it as that but as something less clinical too. And if a new study conducted by two researchers at Oregon State University (OSU) is any indication, peace is not likely to be brokered between the two camps any time soon.

For a society as technologically far along as the U.S., we do a surprisingly poor job of looking after our tiniest members. About 99% of all births in the U.S. take place in hospitals, yet we rank 29th in the world in infant mortality — below Hungary and tied with Slovakia and Poland — with 6.71 deaths per 1,000 live births. That compares to a rate of about 3.5 deaths per 1,000 live births in Far Eastern and Scandinavian countries such as Singapore, Japan, Norway and Sweden.


17 May 2009

crazy, just crazy

Yesterday I was nearly cut off by a big SUV who was aggressively trying to pull into very heavy traffic at a notoriously dangerous little stretch of busy road...they ended up behind me. I glanced in the mirror & then did a double take...it looked like two sets of hand on the wheel, one adult & one child. But I was sure I must be seeing things, right?! The windows were lightly tinted, but it it really looked like a child on the driver's lap.
The SUV pulled onto the interstate behind me, so I moved over but slowed down enough to let them catch up beside me - sure enough, a baby less than two was sitting on the driver's lap, "helping" steer. My heart sank & then raced. I called 911 (hand's free) and reported it, something I've never done before.
Who in the world would do something like that? So stunningly nuts and sad.

16 May 2009

Welcome Gamble Grady!

A big welcome to this world for a big, beautiful boy born this morning. Named for his maternal great grandma's maiden name, he's 9lb 4oz, 22" long, a 15" head, a hint of a cleft chin like his dad & some awesome baby cheeks! You picked a great family to be born into, Gamble...enjoy!

15 May 2009

safe sippy cups

If you are concerned about BPA (Bisphenol-A), a harmful plastics additive used in many baby & kid products, then here's an easy way to tell congress to pass the "Ban Poisonous Additives Act of 2009" from Mom's Rising

Here's some language from the message to Congress that explains the concern over BPA:

BPA was first synthesized as an estrogen replacement therapy in the 1930s but was discarded in favor of other therapies. In the 1940s, chemists discovered they could use BPA to make plastic. Now BPA can be found in baby bottles, water bottles and food storage containers. It is also used the lining of metal food cans, including infant formula cans.

BPA is of particular concern to moms because even minuscule amounts – parts per billion or parts per trillion – have been shown to cross the placenta and disrupt normal prenatal development. Early life exposure to BPA has been linked to a host of developmental problems, such as breast cancer, prostate cancer, obesity, early onset puberty, abnormal brain development , hyperactivity, and the genetic defect that causes Down’s syndrome. 
 
The CDC found BPA in 93% of all Americans and the scientific literature points to food as being the major route of exposure.

14 May 2009

Do You Doula?

Enjoy this nice little 7 minute film about doulas & the families who loved having a doula present at their births!

13 May 2009

touchdown!


OK - I am not a fan of football (or baseball or most other team sports - just not my thing), but as one friend said, I might have to become one now that NY Giants football player Eli Manning and his wife, Abby, have donated the money for a birthing center at St. Vincents Hospital in NYC! Such great news for the city's birthing women and babies!
Manning said,

"We wanted to make it a special place to bring new life into the world," the 28-year-old Super Bowl hero told the Daily News.

"For Abby and I, it's about being part of that, to make sure all the parents have a comfortable experience."

10 May 2009

YeeHaw! Happy Mother's Day!







I spent my Mother's Day with friends (and about 6,500 other folks), running our first race ever - check out my lucky race number - 7777! I should head to Vegas! Four miles through Central Park (NYC) on the most perfect spring day. The best part was that I got to sprint across the finish line, hand in hand with my dear friend Carrie! I think my friends would agree that we felt strong, alive and so much better prepared for our upcoming triathlon in September (and pleasantly surprised by our race times!). In fact, we can't wait to do more races...next year we want to try a half-marathon...but more short races before the Tri.
There are so many wonderful posts on birth and motherhood out there right now, including the awesome "ad" for Mother Of The Year that's gone viral...so I thought I'd simply post about the birth of the new women my friends and I are becoming...the birth of athletes...it's hard work, but fun too and feels really satisfying. Happy Mother's Day to all!

02 May 2009

free wheelin'



I picked up my shiny new bike (a birthday gift from my husband) yesterday & took my first ride today...12.5 miles around a 3 mile loop (took a little less than an hour) in the reservation, a nature preserve by my house. I had a good workout but I was also getting the feel for the bike computer, cadence, starting to learn about shifting gears. There was one near miss when an off-leash dog came running toward me but I didn't crash or fall over, remembering to clip out (remove my cycling shoes from special pedals) before stopping...and it was fun!
One of the guys at the bike shop spent a long time making sure that the adjustments were just right and teaching me some basics - super helpful since I basically have not ridden a non-stationary bike since I was in middle school!
As I told someone just now... strange comparison, but it felt a little like what I enjoy about skiing...playing with balance & technique, seeing the scenery go by, a little fear/adrenaline, testing myself to see if I can NOT slow down out of panic and instead embrace the speed and the bumps, and joy...I liked it!

01 May 2009

Your Best Birth


The new book by Ricki Lake & Abby Epstein, of The Business of Being Born (which can now be rented for 24 hours online), is available as of today and Ricki & Abby appeared on The Today Show to discuss it.



Ricki also told her birth stories & how she came to be doing the fabulous work she is doing (with Abby Epstein) in the birth world on the Today Show website...well worth the read!

seek shelter


from tomorrow's rain under the Red Tent being erected in NYC tomorrow, Saturday, 5/2 from 11a-6p...details HERE for the Healing the Womb Women's Celebration: "The Wild WOMBing Day"

*above photo from a BOLD event

30 April 2009

Welcome baby Grace!

Amazing - just amazing. Things went FAST once you decided today was the day...your momma was so focused and powerful, roaring but never panicking, starting to push a little by the time we got to the hospital. You came out all wrapped in your cord, but strong, peaceful and beautifully delicate with a head full of hair. I think your energy is well-matched to your calm & patient parents!

Welcome to this world, baby Grace.

25 April 2009

I am WOMBan, hear me roar

Just passing this along for those who, like me, are in the NYC area:

Healing the Womb Women's Celebration: "The Wild WOMBing Day"
creating and cultivating safety & healing in our bodies and in our lives
Host:
Be Wild Woman
Type:
Other - Ceremony
Network:
Global
Date:
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Time:
11:00am - 6:00pm
Location:
Nurture New York
Street:
1123 Broadway, Suite 1205
City/Town:
New York, NY
View Map
Phone:
9174533663
Email:
info@bewildwoman.com
Description
Be Wild Woman of the Kakini Health is proud to present in collaboration with
Nurture New York
The Healing the Womb Women¹s Celebration
³The Wild WOMBing Day²

Wild:(wld)adj. growing, or living in a natural state; not domesticated,
untamed:

Womb: wm)v.to create and cultivate, safety and healing both inside your body
and in your life.

May 2nd 11-6pm @ Nurture New York
Open to joy along your healing pathÅ 
A FREE day of awareness, community and celebration for women.

The levels of violence directed toward the womb are shocking! Incidents of
sexual violence, domestic violence, and genital mutilation are widespread
across the globe. Add to this other womb injuries, such as fibroids, cancer,
infertility and hysterectomies, and it becomes evident that women are in
need of safety and healing! On May 2nd Be Wild Woman is helping to break the
cycle of violence and spread the cycle of healing across New York City with
a Free Healing the Womb Wild Wombing Day for women. Healer Kiana Love,
Founder of Be Wild Woman and Kakini Health, says ³It is time for women to
create their own safety and cultivate healing in their bodies and in their
communities. ³Wombing² is crucial to women¹s health and happiness. ³

Join Be Wild Woman as we provide space, tools, and resources for women to
learn how to create and cultivate safety and healing in their bodies and
lives. Have Fun!

Join us and connect to a community and network of healing support.
Experience nurturing and joyful connections. Learn about Be Wild Woman¹
supportive healing circles, workshops, and one on one care. Learn how Be
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how you can get involved.
Activities include:
Health fair, yoga, art, performances, talks, dancing, ceremonies, drumming,
face painting, music, healing womb stories, & poetry.

FEATURING:
Healing the Womb Ritual and Ceremony
by founder Kiana Love
Heart & Womb Dance by Diana Ferrante.
Wombing Stories Video

clips from Be Wild Woman¹s, Healing the Womb study & documentary
Presenters & Activities include:

Body Talk to Heal Your Womb
by Karen Atkins Founder of Nurture New York

Defender Stories
by self defense expert and women¹s legal advocate Diana Adams

5Rhythms Wave Dance with Kierra Foster Ba

Belly Dance by Teeni Dakini

RawFusion Womb Nourishment by Simone Turner

Womb Art Nook & Decor by Salma Shalmy and Laura Sheedy

Womb Words Cove by Janie Angelica & Noelle V. Dor

Be Wild Woman Costume Wardrobe
grown up dress up and portrait station

Womb Sanctuary. ³red tent² healing space to honor our wombs & cycles

Raffle: help raise $ for healing the womb project & scholarship fund to
bring healing the womb to women in need

To attend please RSVP to Kiana: info@bewildwoman.com or 917.453.3663

for more info or to get involved ( volunteers needed!) go to
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contact: Kiana Love info@bewildwoman.com

tel 917 453-3663

24 April 2009

best. commercial. ever.

I'd seen this around a little while back (at the always awesome Birth Activist - check out the great commentary comparing US mattress ads to European!) & meant to post it earlier...
Can you imagine a US company showing an actual birth to sell a mattress? Love it!


22 April 2009

get up, stand up

stand up for you labor...(perhaps while listening to Bob Marley! ;-)
Being upright is common sense, but still not how most people having a typical, medically-managed birth, labor...

Check out this NY Times article

Having a Baby: Activity May Decrease Length of Labor

Published: April 20, 2009

Lying down during the first stage of labor may slow the process, a new review of studies has found, but if the expectant mother sits, stands or walks around she may safely bring matters to a quicker conclusion.

The analysis, published April 14 in The Cochrane Collaboration, combined data from 21 studies with a total of 3,706 women. The analysis, published April 14 in The Cochrane Collaboration, combined data from 21 studies with a total of 3,706 women.

Women who lay down — lying flat, in a semireclined position or on their sides — were no more likely than those who sat upright or stood to have unexpected needs like a Caesarean section. And there was no discernible difference between the groups in maternal satisfaction or the amount of fetal distress.

But over all, those who sat up, stood or walked spent an average of one hour less in the first stage of labor (strong, regular contractions with 3 to 10 centimeters’ dilation of the cervix) than those who did not, and they were slightly less likely to require epidural anesthesia.

Annemarie Lawrence, the lead author and a midwife at the Townsville Hospital in Queensland, Australia, suggested that gravity helps. “The baby’s head pushing down on the cervix improves the regularity and intensity of contractions,” she said. “Women should be allowed to move around freely. What this study shows is that lying down isn’t safer in the first stage of labor.”

21 April 2009

skin-to-skin


little actions, big payoffs

Often we do things a certain way because, well, that's the way we do them. We have good reasons and don't really question whether there is a better way. But maybe we should...

An example: after a baby is born in a hospital (where most babies in the US are born), the baby might be put on its mom's chest for a minute, though usually on a blanket. That blanket is used to dry off & stimulate babies. That makes sense, though I know plenty of midwives who feel we overdo the stimulating via drying.
But soon after, usually while the birth of the placenta is being medically managed (which is what usually happens in a hospital birth & may be wise - read more here***), the baby is taken to a corner of the room & looked over & then wrapped up and given a hat before being handed back to the mom. A baby burrito...cute, but should we be doing this?

Randomized studies detailed in The Cochrane Library say no...you can read the whole abstract, or this plain language summary (the bolding of the conclusion is mine):

Early skin-to-skin contact for mothers and their healthy newborn infants
Skin-to-skin contact between mother and baby at birth reduces crying, improves mother-baby interaction, keeps the baby warmer, and helps women breastfeed successfully.

In many cultures, babies are generally cradled naked on their mother's bare chest at birth. Historically, this was necessary for the baby's survival. In recent times, in some societies as more babies are born in hospital, babies are separated or dressed before being given to their mothers. It has been suggested that in industrialized societies, hospital routines may significantly disrupt early mother-infant interactions and have harmful effects. The review was done to see if there was any impact of early skin-to-skin contact between the mother and her newborn baby on infant health, behavior and breastfeeding. The review included 30 studies involving 1925 mothers and their babies. It showed that babies interacted more with their mothers, stayed warmer, and cried less. Babies were more likely to be breastfed, and to breastfeed for longer, if they had early skin-to-skin contact. Babies were also, possibly, more likely to have a good early relationship with their mothers, but this was difficult to measure.
If you are pregnant or if you work with birthing women and new babies, think about this and really consider making skin-to-skin happen if at all possible. Certainly any skin-to-skin, at any time in the early days or weeks is important...but we do not get these first moments and hours back.

***regarding the medically managed third stage, I wish the study/ies had looked at whether it contributed to issues with retained membranes, need for D&Cs, related complications and extended lochia (bleeding for the weeks following birth)

20 April 2009

growing & changing

I think I just saw my preschooler read something! His teacher let him sort & file another class's art work, so he had to read/match the names on their work & their cubbies.

My middle son, 8 & a string bean, has just eaten 2 non-sugary drink yogurts, a peanut butter sandwich, a hot dog & some milk. Whew!

My oldest got up before school to practice grinding (riding a skateboard on an elevated metal rail).

Lots going on with these kids...

autism & bereavement

It was studied & no link was found:

STUDY: IMPACT OF MATERNAL BEREAVMENT ON AUTISM RISK
A study published in the April 9th edition of the journal Pediatrics examines whether prenatal stress exposure after maternal bereavement is associated with an increased risk of autism later in life. According to the study authors, prenatal stress has been linked to several adverse neurobehavioral outcomes. A nationwide population-based cohort study of 1,492,709 children was conducted in Denmark from 1978 to 2003. 37,275 children were born to women who lost a close relative either during pregnancy or up to one year before pregnancy. These children were considered the “exposed group” and were compared to the remaining group of children (the “unexposed group”). All children were followed up from birth until their death, migration, onset of autism, or the end of 2006. The study authors found that there was no association between maternal bereavement during the prenatal period and an increased risk of autism. To access the study online, go to http://pediatrics.aappublicati
ons.org/cgi/content/abstract/123/4/1102.

19 April 2009

in awe of birthing women

who are willing to surprise themselves...
I had the honor of attending a birth today for some first-time parents. The mom had sort of picked today as the day she wanted her baby to be born and it worked out! Her original birth plan from the start was to get an epidural. And yet she labored so beautifully, really focused, that she opted not to take medication. When we got to the hospital she was 9cm (but with plenty of time) and she was happy to just keep laboring peacefully. She waited until her body really told her it was time to push and she had the good fortune to have picked a wonderful care provider, my favorite OB, who was totally supportive of this.
She pushed for only a little while until her 9lb 4oz son, beautiful and strong, was born. His name will be announced in eight days at his bris.
We were joined by an OB resident who had been a doula herself for a couple of years and actually trained with the same woman who trained and mentored me...so lovely to see a future OB who has really seen all stages of birth.
I was so touched to see my client's mother stand back respectfully, eyes filled with tears and head on her husband's shoulder, as we readied to leave for the hospital. She, too, had had a natural labor and her daughter, my client, had been nearly 10 lbs. Later, I had the joy of seeing all four grandparents waiting together in the lounge area. They had measured out in Post-It notes 21+ inches (and drawn a little baby) to show themselves about how long their new grandchild was. Sweet!

Welcome baby boy! Your momma is so strong - she worked so hard but made it look easy! Your daddy was a wonderful support and cried tears of joy today for you.

18 April 2009

yay, me!


(those are not my legs!)

OK, can I just say that I'm feeling pretty pleased with myself? 'Cause I am.

Two months ago when I signed up for the triathlon we had to order the special Tri shirts (the tight-fitting, moisture-wicking, biking type shirts)...my friends & I decided to order them in smaller sizes than we needed on registration day, for extra incentive to work hard.
I ordered at least one size, probably two sizes, smaller. It's been on my mind, making me a little nervous, frankly.

It arrived today...and it fits!
I'm a little vaklempt...
The race is in just under five months and I'm feeling great.
'cause, as the race tag line says,
SHE SWIMS
SHE RIDES
SHE RUNS

SheROX!

17 April 2009

you make me feel

like a natural...cesarean?!...LINK to The MotherHood Blog today...

home as safe as hospital

That's what another study, the largest ever, found about birth. It compares apples to apples, low risk to low risk. It parses the concerns & aspirations of a shift in maternity care in the UK, where the government has pledged to give all women the option of a home birth by the end of this year.
Here's the BBC link where you can also listen to the story. Notice that it says "UK obstetricians welcomed the study..." - one would hope that US OBs welcome it too.

Home births 'as safe as hospital'

The largest study of its kind has found that for low-risk women, giving birth at home is as safe as doing so in hospital with a midwife.

Research from the Netherlands - which has a high rate of home births - found no difference in death rates of either mothers or babies in 530,000 births.

Home births have long been debated amid concerns about their safety.

UK obstetricians welcomed the study - published in the journal BJOG - but said it may not apply universally.

The number of mothers giving birth at home in the UK has been rising since it dipped to a low in 1988. Of all births in England and Wales in 2006, 2.7% took place at home, the most recent figures from the Office for National Statistics showed.

The research was carried out in the Netherlands after figures showed the country had one of the highest rates in Europe of babies dying during or just after birth.

It was suggested that home births could be a factor, as Dutch women are able and encouraged to choose this option. One third do so.

But a comparison of "low-risk" women who planned to give birth at home with those who planned to give birth in hospital with a midwife found no difference in death or serious illness among either baby or mother.

"We found that for low-risk mothers at the start of their labour it is just as safe to deliver at home with a midwife as it is in hospital with a midwife," said Professor Simone Buitendijk of the TNO Institute for Applied Scientific Research.

"These results should strengthen policies that encourage low-risk women at the onset of labour to choose their own place of birth."

Hospital transfer

Low-risk women in the study were those who had no known complications - such as a baby in breech or one with a congenital abnormality, or a previous caesarean section.

Nearly a third of women who planned and started their labours at home ended up being transferred as complications arose - including for instance an abnormal fetal heart rate, or if the mother required more effective pain relief in the form of an epidural.

The NHS is simply not set up to meet the potential demand for home births
Louise Silverton
Royal College of Midwives

But even when she needed to be transferred to the care of a doctor in a hospital, the risk to her or her baby was no higher than if she had started out her labour under the care of a midwife in hospital.

The researchers noted the importance of both highly-trained midwives who knew when to refer a home birth to hospital as well as rapid transportation.

While stressing the study was the most comprehensive yet into the safety of home births, they also acknowledged some caveats.

The group who chose to give birth in hospital rather than at home were more likely to be first-time mothers or of an ethnic minority background - the risk of complications is higher in both these groups.

The study did not compare the relative safety of home births against low-risk women who opted for doctor rather than midwife-led care. This is to be the subject of a future investigation.

Home option

But Professor Buitendijk said the study did have relevance for other countries like the UK with a highly developed health infrastructure and well-trained midwives.

Women need to be counselled on the unexpected emergencies which can arise during labour and can only be managed in a maternity hospital
RCOG

In the UK, the government has pledged to give all women the option of a home birth by the end of this year. At present just 2.7% of births in England and Wales take place at home, but there are considerable regional variations.

Louise Silverton, deputy general secretary of the Royal College of Midwives, said, the study was "a major step forward in showing that home is as safe as hospital, for low risk women giving birth when support services are in place.

"However, to begin providing more home births there has to be a seismic shift in the way maternity services are organised. The NHS is simply not set up to meet the potential demand for home births, because we are still in a culture where the vast majority of births are in hospital.

"There also has to be a major increase in the number of midwives because they are the people who will be in the homes delivering the babies."

Mary Newburn, of the National Childbirth Trust, said: "This makes a significant contribution to the growing body of reassuring evidence that suggests offering women a choice of place of birth is entirely appropriate."

The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (RCOG) said it supported home births "in cases of low-risk pregnancies provided the appropriate infrastructures and resources are present to support such a system.

But it added: "Women need to be counselled on the unexpected emergencies - such as cord prolapse, fetal heart rate abnormalities, undiagnosed breech, prolonged labour and postpartum haemorrhage - which can arise during labour and can only be managed in a maternity hospital.

"Such emergencies would always require the transfer of women by ambulance to the hospital as extra medical support is only present in hospital settings and would not be available to them when they deliver at home."

The Department of Health said that giving more mothers-to-be the opportunity to choose to give birth at home was one of its priority targets for 2009/10.

A spokesman said: "All Strategic Health Authorities (SHAs) have set out plans for implementing Maternity Matters to provide high-quality, safe maternity care for women and their babies."


16 April 2009

talk back

my most recent post garnered this comment:
Regarding the quote: "Some cite pressure from parents"; I've now heard this notion from doctors defending both inductions and planned c-sections too many times.

I am so sick of hearing the equivalent of "she asked for it" from these doctors!!

It's the most irresponsible, buck-passing, bullshit I've ever heard!

There's a big, big, difference between listening to and emotionally supporting your patients when they are talking about the very real emotional and logistical hardships of the impending entry of a brand-new person into this world, and caving into 'demands' that you KNOW, from your evidence-based, medically "superior" position, are not in the best interests of either the mom or baby.

I mean, are these people feeding their own kids candy and ice cream for dinner, just because "they asked for it"?

Enough with blaming the victim!

to which I respond:
I absolutely agree about blaming the victim...we're too fat, too posh to push and too spoiled to wait...they are just giving us what we want...BS...what about when I want a referral to a chiropractor? They aren't exactly thrilled to placate me then. But then they don't get to clear the decks at a time that works for them and get paid more either.
How about counseling women to live with the swollen fingers and achy back in exchange for a healthier baby with a bigger brain? I don't know anyone who would choose their own comfort over that unless there was a compelling medical reason (such as actual pre-eclampsia)
It's insulting and just another glaring example of the complete lack of informed consent in most cases...

37 is NOT the new 40


Call me crazy, but there is probably some sort of reason nature made gestation about 40 weeks, yet it's common practice for a scheduled cesarean (or an induction) to be done at around 37 weeks in spite of many studies that show this is NOT evidence based or best practice. Here's another reason to say no unless your or you baby's life is at risk by staying pregnant longer:

In the newest issue of the APPPH Newsletter (Association for Prenatal & Perinatal Psychology & Health) on birth psychology, a study shows:

Bigger is Better
A baby’s brain at 35 weeks
weighs only two-thirds what it
will weigh at 39 weeks

NEW RESEARCH SHOWS WHY EVERY WEEK OF PREGNANCY COUNTS
New research shows that the last weeks of pregnancy are more important than once thought for brain, lung and liver
development, and there may be lasting consequences for babies born at 34 to 36 weeks, now called “late preterm.” Experts
also warn that a fetus’s estimated age may be off by as much as two weeks either way, meaning that a baby thought to be
36 weeks along might be only 34. A study in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecologycalculated that for each
week a baby stayed in the womb between 32 and 39 weeks, there is a 23% decrease in problems such as respiratory
distress, jaundice, seizures, temperature instability and brain hemorrhages. A study of nearly 15,000 children in the Journal
of Pediatrics found that those born between 32 and 36 weeks had lower reading
and math scores in first grade than babies who went to full term. The American
College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Academy of Pediatrics
and the March of Dimes are now urging obstetricians not to deliver babies before
39 weeks unless there is a medical reason to do so. But it isn’t always easy to tell
which elective early deliveries are done for medical reasons, such as fetal distress
or pre-eclampsia, and which aren’t. “Obstetricians know the rules and they are
very creative about some of their indications—like ‘impending pre-eclampsia,’”
says Alan Fleischman, medical director for the March of Dimes. Why do doctors
agree to deliver a baby early when there’s no medical reason? Some cite pressure
from parents. “‘I’m tired of being pregnant. My fingers are swollen. My mother-
in-law is coming’—we hear that all the time,” says Laura E. Riley, medical
director of labor and delivery at Massachusetts General Hospital. There’s also a
perception that delivering early by c-section is safer for the baby, even though it
means major surgery for the mom. . “The idea is that somehow, if you’re in
complete control of the delivery, then only good things will happen. But that’s
categorically wrong. The baby and the uterus know best,” says F. Sessions Cole,
director of newborn medicine at St. Louis Children’s Hospital. He explains that a complex series of events occurs in late
pregnancy to prepare the baby to survive outside the womb: The fetus acquires fat needed to maintain body temperature;
the liver matures enough to eliminate bilirubin from the body; and the lungs get ready to exchange oxygen as soon as the
umbilical cord is clamped. Disrupting any of those steps can result in brain damage and other problems. In addition, the
squeezing of the uterus during labor stimulates the baby and the placenta to make steroid hormones that help this last phase
of lung maturation—and that’s missed if the mother never goes into labor.

15 April 2009

unadorned


cool: French Elle's April 2009 issue features famous beauties without makeup or any retouching. Good article...worth checking out.
Now if only a major publication would show a few celebs who are not in a size zero bikini the week after giving birth!

The State Of Birth In America


maybe it should be called the SORRY ASS state of birth...
a week of coverage from The MotherHood blog (the magazine is set to return to print in Fall,2009) on birth in the US...

Our series begins today with
You're So Brave (I Bet You Think This Birth is About You)

by
Helena Holgersson-Shorter

Then tune in this week for these articles:

THURSDAY, APRIL 16
Corporate Undermining: Setting Up Mothers to Fail by Maria Parlapiano

FRIDAY, APRIL 17
You Make Me Feel Like a Natural...Cesarean? by Kim Collins

SATURDAY, APRIL 18
Medicate, Subjugate, Dominate, Operate by Gayle Lemke

14 April 2009

Hathor's comic birth


Once Hathor The Cow Goddess (creator of the awesome comic, books and more) and now aka Mama-Is welcomed a new baby - check out her birth story comic! She also posted non-comic pictures of the real babe.
Congratulations, Heather/Hathor/Mama!

13 April 2009

cool shot

who is the statue of at the end of the hall? Lincoln?

and Bo is his name



The First Puppy, Bo, arrived today...congrats to the whole family!

12 April 2009

cute


I was cleaning out kid clothes & just found a tshirt my son made a few years back; at the time, he and his friend had a band called "Alien Candy":
War Is Wrong...
unless it's a
BATTLE OF THE BANDS!"

spooky Easter





and the tale of the slacker mom...
I know we have Easter baskets but I couldn't find them last night...so out of desperation, I used the Halloween trick-or-treat bags...points for creativity??

11 April 2009

rest in peace

Tonight a powerful woman, Jyoti Chrystal, died. At least her body did, while supported by loved ones and hospice care for the illness she met with grace. She was the owner of Star Seed yoga in NJ, as well as a shaman, healer, wise woman, and teacher. Though I only knew her a little, having been to some of her shamanic journeys, she was a friend and mentor to some of my dear ones and I know they will be grieving her powerfully.

Many babies have been conceived after the Full Moon Fire Ceremonies that she and her partner Jason led. Her passing is a loss to our community. Blessings to her family, yogic and otherwise.

Rest in peace, Jyoti.

10 April 2009

"natural" cesareans

Food for thought during Cesarean Awareness Month. Love this & hate this...what do you think?

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/ tol/life_ and_style/ health/article60
28478.ece

From The Times
April 4, 2009

The new "natural" Caesarean
With more babies being born by Caesarean section, a new movement is
campaigning to make the event a more "natural" experience

Charlotte Edwardes

The lights of the operating theatre are dimmed and there is a mood of calm
among the hospital staff. A midwife softly narrates a continuing procedure
to a patient who is squeezing her husband's hand. The surgeon gives the nod:
it's time. The drape across the patient's abdomen is lowered and her head is
raised. Her eyes widen as she and her husband watch their baby, tiny and
pink with a mop of black hair, being gently delivered from her. There is a
moment of collective awe before the newborn's cry fills the air. "It's a
boy!" his mother gasps, before enveloping him in a warm hug.
This mother has just had a "natural Caesarean", a revolutionary technique
that attempts to turn one of the world's most common operations into an
experience closer to vaginal birth. The idea was conceived by Professor
Nicholas Fisk, formerly a consultant obstetrician at Queen Charlotte's
Hospital in London, in response to the rising numbers of Caesareans in the
UK. Caesarean deliveries account for 24 per cent of all births. More than
half are emergency C-sections rather than planned, and maternal age is a
factor; according to the National Sentinel Caesarean Section Audit, mothers
under the age of 20 have a C-section rate of just 13 per cent, compared with
33 per cent for mothers aged between 40 and 50.
There's no doubt that a Caesarean is major surgery. It is also the joyous
moment of arrival for parents and this is what Professor Fisk, and two
colleagues - Dr Felicity Plaat, consultant anaesthetist, and Jenny Smith, a
senior midwife and author (see panel) - set out to emphasise.
"It struck me that all the effort was going into changing normal childbirth
but that Caesarean section was still steeped in old surgical rituals," says
Fisk. "In some cases I was horrified; the baby would be dragged out like a
tumour and passed to several medical staff before the mother. It was ripe
for reform."
His team concentrated on three areas. First, parental involvement: this
meant dropping the drape that "divorced" the mother from her abdomen, to
allow her to see her baby's head emerge; the baby itself blocks the mother's
view of the operation.
The second point was physiological: Fisk showed that when a Caesarean is
performed slowly the baby is able to "autoresuscitate" - start breathing
unaided - while still attached to the placenta, as in normal birth. The baby
is "half-delivered" and a combination of the naturally contracting uterus
and the baby's vigorous wriggles allow the lungs to expel fluid in a similar
way to a vaginal birth. This reduces the risk of the baby needing help to
breathe; a common occurrence after a Caesarean.
Finally, Fisk wanted to see newborns handed immediately to their mother for
skin-to-skin bonding. "There are now official standards for skin-to-skin
bonding in childbirth, but these are almost never met with Caesareans," he
says. One obstruction is that the monitoring equipment needed for patients
in surgery is routinely attached to the mother's chest. "In a natural
Caesarean we attach the ECG wires to the back of the chest so that the baby
can be placed on the mother after birth," Plaat says. The anaesthetic dose
is lowered so that there is no "heaviness in the arms" to prevent holding
the baby, and a clip that measures oxygen in the blood is attached to the
toe.
Plaat knows from experience how important it is for a mother to be given her
child as quickly as possible: "My son was passed around, measured, weighed,
dressed and even had his hair washed before being given to me. A crucial
player, therefore, is the midwife . She has to be enthusiastic and involved.
It's not just 'dumping baby on mum' and writing up notes; it's making sure
that the baby is safe, is not going to slip off, and is warm. We put towels
over the baby and even bubble-wrap - the kind you buy in big rolls in
Ryman."
Smith, whose book Your Baby, Your Body, Your Birth advocates a softer
general approach to birth, adds: "And while keeping both mother and baby
safe, we focus on the fact that this is a birth. We bring in the elements of
normal birth: the mother can see her baby's sex at the same time as the
operating team. The father can perform a second 'cutting of the cord' and
the midwife can show him where to clamp it. It is entirely different from
the experience parents have had before."
While plans to audit the effects of the natural Caesarean on mother and baby
are in the pipeline, women who have heard of the technique want it now. The
procedure is unsuitable for babies who are in the breech position, or when
the baby or mother, or both, are in danger, or for premature babies whose
lungs are not mature. But Ruwan Wimalasundera, consultant obstetrician at
Queen Charlotte's, says that 90 per cent of his patients ask for the natural
Caesarean and more than 100 have been performed in the past 18 months.
"Parents love it," he says. "The benefits are obvious: mothers bond with
their baby earlier."
Those who have had a natural Caesarean could not be more effusive. Camilla
Fisher had one last summer, after an emergency Caesarean two years before.
"It was the most relaxing environment: calm and reassuring," she recalls.
"The staff and my husband were all in green surgical gowns, but it didn't
feel like an operation. When you've had a natural Caesarean you wonder why
it was ever different. I've never felt that I was deprived of a 'natural
birth'."

Discuss your views on birth styles at timesonline. co.uk/alphamummy

How to have a 'natural' C-section
Jenny Smith, a leading midwife and author of Your Body, Your Baby, Your
Birth (Rodale UK, £14.99), gives these tips:
Ask if the surgical team will play music and if your partner can take
photographs.
Ask for an epidural dose that won't make your arms "heavy".
Ask for the screen to be dropped so that you can see your baby being
delivered.
You can ask to call the sex of your baby yourself.
Ask the midwife to pass your baby directly to you so that you can enjoy
skin-to- skin bonding immediately.
Ask that the father may perform the second "cutting of the cord" while the
baby is in your arms.

09 April 2009

RIP, Dan Miller

Sometimes grief can be surprising. That happened to me today when I saw that Dan Miller died. I didn't "know" him, though I met him once at a swimming pool while I played with his daughter.

I hadn't thought anything about him in probably 20 years. He was the local news anchor we watched in my home when I was growing up in Nashville. I guess maybe it's comforting for things from our growing up years to stay the same and be there in case we want to go back & visit. My connection to him was small - his voice was just on in the background a lot. But these little things seep in and become part of us.

He was only 67. Rest in peace.

why is this night...


why is this night different from all other nights? Because our president will host and attend a Passover seder at the White House. There have been seders there before, but no sitting president has ever attended.

From Politico:
A year ago, Barack Obama and a dozen of his campaign staff gathered in the basement of the Sheraton in Harrisburg, Pa., for an impromptu Seder to mark the start of Passover.

After proclaiming the traditional “Next year in Jerusalem” refrain at the end of the meal, the future president, who was still in a heated battle for the Democratic nomination, raised his glass and added, “Next year in the White House."

08 April 2009

new scooter, daddy's shirt


FIVE


Yesterday my youngest, my baby, turned five. It sounds so old - so much older than four. He was so excited that he woke up way early and spent the entire day telling everyone he saw, strangers included!

He had already had his party so he just celebrated with a snack to share at preschool and then we went out to dinner at a Japanese hibachi place the kids love (we call it "the place where they cook in front of you" and it's usually where they want to go on birthdays)...every time the music and lights would indicate that it was someone's birthday (they come & sing), he would get all excited and then concerned that they might forget him. But eventually it was his turn & he loved it!

The night before, we had him sleep with us (pretty common, actually) and I told him his birth story again - how he was born in water at home and seemed to swim up to the surface and how we were the very first people ever to touch him. I told him about how his biggest brother, then six, cut the cord and how he had crawled up my belly and started to nurse all on his own.

Five years ago I was snuggled in bed with this baby boy of mine, resting gratefully, knowing we had been blessed and trusting that I could stay in bed with my baby for days and days while others cared for the household. Third time's a charm.

FIVE - wow!

spring please!


It was just snowing here a few minutes ago...I love winter but I'm ready for spring! I've heard these are called "S'meeps"! Not sure who took the picture but I think it is so happy & spring-y!

06 April 2009

sleep

sleep? I don't need no stinkin' sleep...oh how wrong I was!
But that was my feeling yesterday when I came home from being at a birth for about 26 hours (and having had a shortened night's sleep Friday night because of waking up to go to the laboring family)...it was beautiful & sunny and I always have adrenaline after being at a birth. Since my family was all asleep, I ran in and changed and went to the gym for a 90 minute endurance ride spin class. Then off to a birthday party at the zoo.
Well, by yesterday afternoon I was a headachy, grouchy mess. A nap helped and then I went to bed at normal time & slept ridiculously late (thankfully my husband helped get the older kids up and out). Still dragging but mostly back to normal.

welcome Megumiko Eileen!

Born yesterday in NYC at 6am just seconds before the sun was starting to rise on a gorgeous spring day. Beautiful & healthy, 8lb 14oz with a full head of hair.
Your parents were so amazingly well informed and worked hard and lovingly together during your 27 hour labor.

I will forever remember how you would rub against my hand like a friendly kitten every time I placed it on your momma's belly - SO cool!

Welcome to this world, Megumiko

02 April 2009

April is


Cesareans can save lives & I'm glad they are available. But they can also cost lives; a cesarean is major abdominal surgery and should be avoided unless absolutely necessary. According to Childbirth Connection.org,
Recent studies reaffirm earlier World Health Organization recommendations about optimal cesarean section rates. The best outcomes for mothers and babies appear to occur with cesarean section rates of 5% to 10%. Rates above 15% seem to do more harm than good (Althabe and Belizan 2006).
2007 data shows that it is nationally 31.8%. My state, NJ is the highest in the nation at nearly 40%! Women who have this surgery are four times more likely to die than women who give birth vaginally.

There is much that can be done to lessen chances of giving birth by cesarean unnecessarily. Educate yourself. Do all that you can to prevent primary cesareans and support VBAC in your community. Check out ICAN for information.

01 April 2009

April Fools


Today is my wedding anniversary - fourteen years!
But work is so busy for my husband that we will have to put off celebrating until the weekend.

I woke up my kids by telling them it had snowed & school was canceled - APRIL FOOLS'!

I spent the day looking for fruit thanks to my oldest...he hid a giant platter of citrus fruits under my pillow. I needed some of them for a recipe I was making...had to go get others eventually.
My youngest didn't quite get the meaning of the day, but shouted "April Fools' Day" sort of randomly.

Once they got home from school they reported a broken TV (joke), a failed test (joke) and on and on. Then my oldest said that I still hadn't found one of his pranks...seems he had taken a bunch of stuff from the freezer and put it in the washer as a hiding place. For an hour. He's been in his room since.

Enough - I'm ready to move on to April 2nd, thank you very much.

PS: I woke up in the night because there was another lemon & lime by my feet!